myhero Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 Secrets of Marriage I wish I am on the back cover of Bhagavad Gita, Bible and Quran You should not marry anyone without liking them. When you meet the person first time before marriage, visualize a situation you got married and fought with that person. If you can’t imagine yourself compromise and hug your spouse after a stint of marital strife just by the mere nature of love on your spouse, do not marry that person. Almost all failed marriages are because of either parents or in-laws involvement. It is very common that parents make comments about in-laws and spouse. Please ignore any comments made by them that make you fight with the other party and spouse. Before you act against in-laws, always think about your spouse and your kids. This should not cause any dejection to them. If it is really bothering, take support of your spouse before you act. Whenever you get anger on in-laws you just treat them the same way you treat your parents in the same situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uma Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 anduke DB lo esaru mee lanti exp people 10 mins lo telustaru ani my suggestion.. enjoy separation.. carry on reproduction Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vijayyeebhava Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 Being together for the sake of kids is not always a good option. Kids are more smart than we give them credit for and they will intuitively know the relationship is a farce. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myhero Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 First read Secret of Marriage thread Once You have Kids means, as a parent you must commit to your family. Having an external affair or lover means think about what you are teaching your kids. Going with a lover is it all that worth? You are actually setting up standards for your kids in a negative way. Life is all about compromise. If you do not love your spouse, you probably do not love your kids as well. How to live happy then, here you go: You hate each other because you might be unnecessarily involving about others stuff. Fundamental principal never talk about your in-laws with your spouse. Spouse also should not talk about your family. Make that as a life lesson and implement it. Your only involvement is helping your spouse and Kids. Other times try to enjoy your work. Cut down Phone calls with external lovers completely. Once you reach 45+ years you automatically both will slow down in your aggressive thinking and you repent if you made a mistake in the past Your life is already screwed up, so please try to give a better life for your Kids Your lover will not give you any best life. Lover may appear great at first after sometime you will see your spouse in him. There is no go back at that point. Start believing your life is all about your Kids and Spouse. Their happiness is the first priority. No other should be part of your life. Friends and relatives give the next importance. Slowly things will improve. Start liking what your spouse likes. If you are looking for external pleasures, please watch YouTube and enjoy. You do not need a lover for it. This is not something you are doing first time. It is much better than make your kids suffer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smartdesi99 Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Two eaxmples two separate couples aa.Leka first case lo husband and second case lo wife lovers anukovala? Kids unnapudu divorce tesukoni marla inko partner ni chesukonte most of the cases lo penam meeda nundi poyyalo paddatte avvuddi. Life lo so many things lo compromise avutham so Compromise avvadam better. Otheside of the fence always looks Green but not true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nbk@myHeart Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Aa lover undi kaabatti vidipothaa anna vaadini/daanni slipper slap tho kottaali..... pillalani kanetapudu kalisi undaalanipichindaa but ipudu maatram kalisi undaaalanipichatleda? That too inko lover... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pradeep01 Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 go and see a counselor is my advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaNTRhi Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 If the kids are old enough to understand , the couple can part their ways ! There is no point staying together when they can't even stand each other ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minion Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 How you would react in the same situation but with a role reversal of a married couple keeping aside right n wrong Couple 1: husband does not love his wife anymore and does not like to talk or even see her shadow Couple 2: wife does not love her husband anymore and does not like to talk or even see his shadow In both the cases the one who wants to leave has a lover. Should they stay together considering the children or part ways? Even if they stay then it would be only under one roof but staying apart Deep question ... I'd separate if the problems are not reconcilable... It's complicated ... but, thinking of sacrifice for kids ... it just doesn't work ... neither in US nor India. Follow your path. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CHINNA BABU Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 Manamantha key board tigers brother Intha Chinna online prapancham lo inni opinions vaste inka bayata enni vastayi Boledu matalu vastayi be prepared but situations are different for every person Mee situation ni batti meeru descission teesukondi Only thing I would say I felt it wrong to have a lover after marriage Nd kids . But Life is hard Nd real. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4tarak Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 go and see a counselor is my advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaNTRhi Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 Deep question ... I'd separate if the problems are not reconcilable... It's complicated ... but, thinking of sacrifice for kids ... it just doesn't work ... neither in US nor India. Follow your path. +11111 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taRAK afrESH Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 Divorceeee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nfan from 1982 Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 Society will not give value to such break ups... And children will suffer a lot and finally the result will be much worse.. Not a valid question at all by the initiator Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Marley Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 Pillalu big iyyaka vallani adigitae saripoddi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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